Sex and relationships counselling in Central London
The latest news from the London Gender, Sexual and Relationship Diversity Practice.
Here are 10 incredible sex tips for people who have been given terrible advice about sex by top 10 lists.
Most sex tips are awful: they try to make us erase our differences and embrace rigid standards. Here is some better advice, adapted from the book 'Sex Outside the Lines - Authentic sexuality in a sexually dysfunctional culture' by Chris Donaghue PhD.
As use of the term "sex positivity" spreads, it seems to be misunderstood in some circles.
Sex positivity isn't about judging other people's sexuality and creating categories of what's good and what's bad. It's about getting that we're not like everybody else and that's okay. Please read this important article by Carol Queen, PhD.
Anyone interested in modern sexuality and relationship issues could do worse than reading this article in Salon about new developments in sex therapy in the USA. We at London Sex and Relationships Therapy, like these “new sex therapists”, are not united by a textbook, a guru or a clearly-delineated “school”. We are probably just as diverse as that group of American new therapists.
The New York Times recently wrote about broadly the same group of people. They called the new therapists “Renegades of couples therapy”, and somewhat strangely designated Esther Perel (see her TED talk and her earlier book) as their “den mother”.
It is good to see other therapists working in innovative ways, believing like us that consensual sex need not and should not be pathologised, and that flexibility and agreed creativity in relationships, just as in psychotherapy, can only benefit people and their relationships…
Henry works mainly in North-West London. I asked him about joining LSRT, and he said: “I’m really excited about the opportunity to contribute to this group. I feel very committed to all people who have to deal with inappropriate and negative responses to their identities, lifestyles and choices in the areas of Gender, Sexual and Relationship Diversities. Especially the experience of finding that, whatever kinds of relationship(s) you are involved in, you can find a psychotherapist who takes your situation as given, and is available to talk about your priorities, is a thing that should not be radical, but in practice so often still is.”
As a general psychotherapist Henry specialises in anxiety, trauma, somatic symptoms, and cultural issues. He is completely open to working with people with a so-called “criminal” background, and with sex workers.
Go here to find out more about Henry’s work, or to his own website .
A very warm welcome to Henry!
In her own words, Louise's work as a therapist '...is actively supporting and understanding of queer, non-heteronormative ways of living and being – she is passionate about challenging society's tendency of accepting difference only when it fits into a heteronormative model - and instead works towards acceptance of all forms of being and relationship.'
Find out more about how she works here.
A very warm welcome to Lou!
Clare Staunton, LSRT therapist, has published an article in the current issue of Multiple Parts, the magazine run by Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors (PODS).
To order a copy, and to see past issues, please go here.
Gender and Sexuality Diversity (GSD) in the Psychotherapist Summer Issue
LSRT therapist Meg John Barker and Dominic Davies, founder of Pink Therapy, have contributed to the current issue of The Psychotherapist, (the UKCP's membership journal) which focuses on Sex and Relationship Therapy.
'...there is much of value that can be learned from GSD people for sex and relationship therapy with all clients. For example, people involved in consensual BDSM communities have had to develop extremely good communication skills and a high degree of self-reflexivity to be able to articulate their desires and communicate these to their partner(s), and they have often had to step outside shame-filled narratives around normative sexual behaviour.'
You can read the article at pages 16 and 17 here:
http://issuu.com/ukcp-publications/docs/the_psychotherapist_summer_2015_low
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