MyBodyBack project at Women of the World Festival

The important new MyBodyBack project will be present at the Women of the World Festival (here on Facebook) from 11 to 13 March 2016.

One in five British women have experienced some form of sexual violence. The latest venture from Pavan Amara's organisation My Body Back, is a clinic she founded at St Bart's Hospital to help rape survivors reclaim their sexuality. Here is a short article about the project. 

Joanne Collins joins LSRT

LSRT welcomes another new member

Joanne works with a wide range of sexual issues, as well as life issues such as trauma and bereavement. She is psychodynamically and systemically trained, and is also influenced by the transpersonal approach. You can find more about Joanne's practice here.

Joanne Collins

Joanne works with adults, couples and families. 

A very warm welcome to Joanne!

Do gay men have too much sex? Does anyone?

I recently came across an excellent article in the Huffington Post (Gay Voices section), “I’m a gay man who loves sex (and here’s why that’s suddenly a problem”, by their editorial director Noah Michelson (@noahmichelson).

It’s a good exposition of the voices that continue to be heard about the lifestyle of certain gay men, and how they are pushed to conform (more completely) to standard societal ideals. It rightly objects to that. In the words of one of its best passages,

I believe sex is a gift that allows us to connect with others (and ourselves) for a night, for a lifetime or just for 25 minutes during our lunch break. I believe sex and pleasure are nothing short of magical and transformative. > And I refuse to believe that just because queer people are increasingly being folded into the mainstream, we should give up fighting for all of the things we’ve been fighting for all these years.

I think these are wise words, and wish they were taken to heart widely. I think they can be reflected on just as usefully for others than gay men only. There is the persistent spectre raised since the early 1990s of “sex addiction”. However often this has been debunked, it continues to be proposed - for reasons best known to the people pushing it.

Sex addiction is not feared for gay men only, but for everyone, gay, straight, bi, queer, cis, male, female, or other. A different article, with a more academic background, is the book chapter ‘The Challenging Landscape of Problematic Sexual Behaviors, Including “Sexual Addiction” and “Hypersexuality”’, by sex educator and psychoanalyst Paul Joannides, republished in Psychology Today.

That article deals with essentially the same subject, but puts it in a sexuality- and gender-neutral context. Joannides covers a great deal of ground. Some topics he discusses are:

  • querying the pathology narrative
  • 12-step programs
  • the idea of “excessive” or “compulsive” masturbation
  • “nymphomania”
  • the demonisation of sex work
  • the fear and condemnation of (Internet) pornography
  • the Christian- or religion-inspired trope of sex as “dirty”
  • the focus on orgasm
  • sexual desire discrepancies generally

It is an article written by a clinician, in rather clinical language, and mainly addressed to sex therapists, counsellors and other clinical or non-clinical practitioners. With that slight reservation, I believe there is a great deal of value in it, and it is useful for who is prepared to read at a greater level of complexity and nuance than a newspaper article can afford.

The full reference to Joannides’ article:

Joannides, P. (2012). The Challenging Landscape of Problematic Sexual Behaviors, Including “Sexual Addiction” and “Hypersexuality”. In P.J. Kleinplatz (Ed.), > New Directions in Sex Therapy: Innovations and Alternatives. 2nd Ed> New York: Routledge.